Pool of Tears
“Of course you agree to have a battle?”
Polarity, Balance, Agreements, Sacred Mirror, Communication
The brothers Tweedle, Dum and Dee, that is, have marched in to your life to teach you a bit about the laws of polarity. Though the Tweedles end up choosing to engage in battle, they are very cooperative and agreeable about the whole thing. They seem to have a relationship that is based on agreements, which they both can rely upon. They are very cordial with each other, and good communication and cooperation are key in their interactions. Indeed, polarity can be an experience of constant struggle between two opposing forces, or it can create an effortless balance as two opposing forces use the natural pull of their balanced opposition to keep their position stable and effortlessly held. Imagine the exercise of sitting in front of a friend, toe to toe. You grab each others’ forearms and, pulling away from each other, stand up together keeping your balance and rising up as a team. This is polarity at its most efficient. On the other hand, polarity can imply an endless battle of well-matched forces, which ends up being a waste of energy. Balance is a natural drive of the universe, and balance can be found through a well-communicated, harmonious relationship, or it can be achieved through continual struggles between two apparent opposites. Sometimes the only difference between the two different sorts of balance is the intention behind each of them. Tweedledum & Tweedledee are generally very synchronous and congenial with each other, but when a disharmony occurs, they agree to work out the conflict, formally, and without personal affront, through an agreed upon battle. They are making a conscious agreement to settle the incongruence within their relationship.
Another perspective to consider is the Divine mirror we face when in a conflict. If we were not an essential part of the push and pull, there would be no friction. Sometimes it is hard to face the idea that someone who is causing us distress might actually be holding up a mirror for us to see ourselves more clearly with, but it is more often true than not. It takes two to tango, and two to battle, and owning and accepting your own role in the battle scene will give you great insight into your growing edges and how to resolve your apparent conflicts.
Are you experiencing a polarity in your life? Is it one of effortless balance, or does it feel like a never-ending struggle? If it is a battle you are engaged in, is it possible to find a way into using your opposing forces as a natural balance for each other? Sometimes we are pulled in a direction that feels uncomfortable, but with a couple of adjustments it becomes a nice and gentle stretch to parts we have not yet given our attention. Don’t assume that your balance relies on an opposing force outside of yourself. Within each position is the other side of the coin, waiting to be explored.
Meditation Sit comfortably and allow your mind to go to a part of your life that is apparently out of balance; a challenge or circumstance that is requiring your attention and focus. Allow yourself to see the balancing force for your perspective. If what is needed to create balance does not come to you, ask this apparent place of contention what it needs to be balanced. You could imagine the situation as a coin. On one side is you and your perspective, and on the other side, allow the “opposing force.” Imagine, as well, that instead of this force being a point of contention, pretend it is a perfect balance, maintaining you where you are currently. Now, put these two perspectives in to the different sides of a coin and step outside of the situation. Allow yourself to be the one holding this coin, owning both sides within yourself. See if it is possible to hold a perspective of your balancing force without judgment, and see if there is any element of the friction that you are bringing into the mix. To own the coin is to claim both sides. Allow these sides to become a perfect balance for each other; continue playing with the imagery until you feel a sense of each side of the situation existing effortlessly and in partnership with each other.
Illustration by Sierra Butler - high school artist