Creatures on the Train: Unsolicited Advice, Rescuer Syndrome, Inner Knowing, Distractions, Drama, Co-Dependency
“Never mind what they all say, my dear . . .”
As Alice moves along towards the third square in the chess board of Looking Glass, she suddenly finds herself inside a train carriage that is stuffed full of all sorts of talking animals and other creatures. They all speak a load of nonsense, and none of them have anything useful to say. During the chaos, Alice thinks to herself, “Then there’s no use in speaking.” But even this doesn’t keep the silly banter from rolling along unhindered.
They all seem caught up in wanting to fix Alice’s dilemma of not having a ticket, though Alice herself seems perfectly at ease with her situation, and the train conductor has long gone. The crowd continues with their suggestions: “ . . . ought to know which way she’s going, even if she doesn’t know her own name!” “She ought to know her way to the ticket office, even if she doesn’t know her alphabet!” “She’ll have to go back from here as luggage!” And so the unsolicited suggestions go, without any insight or consideration of whether Alice needs any help at all. It is all rather maddening and such a waste of time.
Are you receiving "help" that's no helpful? Or are you the one getting up in other people's business?
It's important to remember each of us has our own sovereignty and ability to choose for ourselves. Even with the best intentions, thinking you know what's best for someone other than yourself is arrogant and what lies at the heart of so much misery in the world.
Step back and ask yourself if the advice you're giving might actually be for yourself, and if you're the one being barraged by unsolicited advice, it's time to get off that train!
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Amanda Elo'Esh, MA
Amanda is author of the Go Ask Alice Oracle & Tea Party Game, Unlock Your Success Codes, and Elevationship: Turn Conflict into Greater Intimacy. She has presented around the world about shifting consciousness and subconscious healing. She is president and founder of Living Wisdom non-profit and facilitates safe and sacred plant medicine ceremonies in Napa Valley, CA.